Update

So today was a better day....until tonight. Which has me thinking this is a sleep related thing as well. Last week was a late week and so far this week he has been asleep before 8:45 ( which is the norm but last week was BUSY). Totall crazy but i got an email from babycenter.com today talking about tantrums and how to deal with them so we will see if any of those tips help. Here is a link for all you moms out there who may be having issues like mine.
http://www.babycenter.com/0_tantrums_11569.bc